Reasons why guys delay marriage

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Why guys delay marriage

By Blessing Mhlanga

Walking down the isle is most of the girls' dream. The dazzling white dress, the diamond ring and the handsome John are part of a lady's prayers and wish.

But when handsome John comes, he doesn't seem keen about marriage at all. He's delaying. He's not interested about the marital talk and persuit. You wander why. Is it your fault? No, girl! It ain't your fault.

When he delays the matrimony crown, then you should be worried. Dating shouldn't take more than five years, because temptation will show you flames. So why do men delay to marry?

1. Young and free theory

This is common among the modern millenials. They presume that they're still young to marry and they think they are growing more younger. It's not good for a man to be alone, neither is it fair to keep the lady waiting and holding on to false hope. Marry early and young, grow together and you'll be safe from temptation.

2. Fear of responsibility

There are spoiled guys who fear taking a marital commitment. They don't take life seriously. They're talented at dating gorgeous ladies but have no intention to marry them. They despise taking responsibility for their life by maning up to propose marriage. Be careful of these guys!

3. Immaturity

Look, marriage is for mature men and not mere boys. It's for mature ladies and not random girls. Guys who delay to marry suffer immaturity syndrome which forces them to focus on the pleasures of life and its temporary vanity. They're not ready. They are selfish. It's about them. Partying, booze, etc is their lifestyle. They desire money to spend and show off instead of investing and saving.

4. No money excuse

Stinginess and poor financial literacy may cripple a guy's desire to marry the lady. He would rather hide behind black tax as an excuse for not saving money for marriage. Some don't understand the rules of money, so they just live on pay check to pay check. There's no financial goals and plans in their world.

5. Wrong influence

Chances are, there's someone influencing your guy not to marry. Birds of same feathers fly together. Evaluate your man's friends and find out if they influence each other positively or negatively. The friends we keep have a positive or negative impact on us.

Ladies advice

If your man is guilty of any of the above, don't crucify or dump him. Talk to him. Make him see the benefits of marriage and why you desire to settle. Tell him that you're not growing any younger and it's time that you have your own family. Seek counsel and Godly advice on money matters and marital affairs. If he's not Cooperating, move out and move on, girl. There are better Johns out there waiting to take you on an elegant isle of matrimony.

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